Totally agree with the previous comments. Totally.
People get to you if you let them.
If you wouldn’t go to this person for advice, then why do their thoughts and opinions matter.
They don’t.
This is someone who doesn’t matter to you, doesn’t impact your life, doesn’t play a meaningful role, but wants to in a negative way.
You might have to lead by example and show your husband that his family, their treatment of him, their rudeness, and their opinions don’t matter. Their actions and words don’t have to impact your life.
ALL of us have a finite amount of time in each day and in this life. For many of us, things became SO MUCH BETTER after we stopped worrying about the thoughts and actions of people who don’t enrich our lives.
RDMercer