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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail
Thanks, LT.
Sorry for the confusion - I didn't actually say 'You're not allowed to say that when we're online.'
I held my tongue or bit the words back.
The first virtual session is on the 15th of August, and we're switching focus to talk about my experience of disability (not something I envisaged spending therapy time on but feels a hell of a lot safer than delving into Feelings around this new development over whatever technological medium she chooses to use.)
She said I can email if I want to express how I'm feeling grief-wise, but...it's not quite the same.
'We're working at quite a deep level around grief at the moment.'
Yeah, and you're opting out by moving online.
I couldn't speak when she left, because I was busy trying not to break again.
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Oh, I misread it as you biting back. Got it. I do think it would be good to tell her that you'd rather she not say that when you're online. Maybe you could share over email?
I do understand opting to talk about other stuff while she's virtual. I've done things like that before. Or, say, avoiding anything about the therapeutic relationship right before Dr. T goes on vacation. (Though I didn't follow that rule this time, and it worked out OK.)
I'd see how you feel as you're doing the virtual work. Maybe it would be better to talk about it in a less safe environment than not talk about it at all? I'm not sure. I know for me it can vary, whether it's better to keep it in or not.
I'm sorry you're struggling so much and that her timing is so awful.