Supposedly when there is integration, no trait is lost - it is all blended in. So if you and heyna do blur, you will share all of what you both already have.

i have 2 alters that named them selves after animals - one because of what the animal represents, and one because that is how she comes across to others.

"Do other people have trouble being 'themselves' and finding their own identity?"

yes, i don't know who i am often within the group. Sometimes I think I am kiya, and then find out I am not. Or, I as kiya, think I know what is going on , only to be told from the back, that I am clueless and they are running the show. =(

Be well. Keep in the flow of things.