I’ve resolved that this time around in therapy, I’m going to manage this yearning feeling better. Where does this dam feeling come from? What proportion of clients get it? My guess is it relates to the yearning that a baby has to be with their care giver. Is it because my parents didn’t pick me up much as a baby and probably left me alone for long periods? Did the yearning get stuck? unfulfilled? It feels like a bloody ridiculous feeling for a mature and sensible adult to feel.

How do other people manage it? I’m trying to just notice it when it comes, with no response other than to repeat a mantra about myself, and to turn my mind to other things. It seems to help.