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Originally Posted by Jellyfish18
Jesyka, thanks for your suggestions.
I mean, the only people who know what I'm like with friends are my friends, but currently I don't even have one that I could trust to tell me the unfiltered and raw truth.
I might try free psychotherapy (but these therapists usually aren't very good) or a support group if I find a free one. But in general, I find people are just too polite or embarrassed or I don't know what.
And well, my Mum doesn't seem to know why I keep having issues with people.
All I know is I do often ask questions or let other people lead the conversation or speak more, as I (especially on these pills) don't have a ton of things to say, and often have really "quieted thoughts". But I think there is something else, something actively off-putting, though I don't know what it could be. It seems, while I may be able to make friends at the beginning, they all drift away or stop getting in touch. They stop wanting to hang out or even keep in touch. And I haven't moved, changed in this period, and so on.
I feel so sad and depressed about this, honestly. : (
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Sorry to hear that. I have similar issues. Do you think that you might be coming on to strong or contacting other people to often?
I myself have made the following mistakes:
Oversharing
Contacting them more often rhan they contact ne. Not everyday, but maybe more often than they’d like
Opening up to people to quickly
Or you could just be attracting all the wrong people who aren’t compatible with you.
Try to play it cool & let other people contact you first.
I was told that friendship is like dating in a way, If you come across as to eager to make new friends, it mght cause people to think that you’re to needy.
Also, do you talk about your problems to often or other people too?
Next time pay close attention to how other people react to what you say.
Do they seem interested or bored? Try to read their body language.
Do they tell you that they’re busy or ignore you often? They might need space. In that case, le them contact you first.