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Originally Posted by darkestpart
unpopular opinion…
maybe we should quit focusing so much on the therapist, and focus on ourselves. we could save ourselves a lot of time and money if we quit playing and just did the work. then, we wouldn’t need to feel special or get mad when the therapist doesn’t say or do as we want them to. the whole point of therapy is to learn new behaviors and ways of dealing with issues. manipulation has got to go.
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I mean, in my case, the reactions *are* part of the work. I can talk and work through the reactions there in ways that may not be so successful in my outside life. And then apply what I've learned to other situations. As in, I can practice being direct with my T about things he says/does that bother me, which makes me more able to do that in my marriage or with my parents.
And much of this for me ties back to childhood wounds/unmet needs, so reactions to things my T does help me understand more about that. And, ultimately, the goal is for me to be able to support myself, but it's a journey.