I do go out to eat or to taprooms a couple times a week--usually once with my husband and once or twice myself. I saw a friend for lunch a couple weeks ago. And concerts. Watching baseball or (American) football and doing fantasy teams for both.

But I feel like some of that stuff went away during Covid and never totally came back. Like it seems my H never wants to do much of anything now. D mostly just wants to stay home (then whines that she's bored...), so we can't really go out to eat with her--we used to do that once or twice a week. Some friends seem to have fallen off--especially ones that H knew initially, where we'd get together as a group or couples. He just doesn't seem interested in seeing them now.

So I think some of that is part of it. Though I was pouring a lot of energy into therapy pre-pandemic and doing a lot more stuff...

It doesn't help that this year so far, H had a major surgery (and will have another one in September--both hernia repairs), we had mold remediation, he had Covid in there, and we had cockroach issues. Oh, and he's had a couple rounds of gout. Plus switching rooms around in the house (and still working on going through some of those). It just feels like there's been one thing after another. Aside from the surgeries and remediation, none of them are huge things, but it's more all of it in a row. And Dr. T's move taking up space in there as well.

I do actually plan to go to the beach for a few days next week by myself to recharge a bit. I was going to meet virtually with Dr. T one of those days, but maybe I should just cancel it.

I also had a plan, at one point, to reduce to twice a week and do some other thing on the third day, like a yoga class, say. I've joined a bunch of meetup groups, but have not actually taken part in any of them yet. I should at least do one of the writing ones--I guess writing is another thing I do.

Sorry, that got kinda long! You make some good points.