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Originally Posted by zoiecat
I know it might seem scary to you but you can find a group where you pay each week. Most meet once a week for 2 hours. I really does take at least 6 months to get through the entire book. It is divided into 4 sections with different skill types for each. Mindfulness is done throughout while you spend 2 months each on the remaining 3 sections.
Sorry if this sounds bad, but you spend 3x a week in therapy for years but you seem hesitant about a 6 month commitment for something that can teach you the skills to improve your life. Yes, you can put it off but why? I don't expect you to answer, but are you afraid of getting better and being able to live a more stress free life? I know some people are, just something to think about.
You can also buy the Marcia Linehan book ahead of time and get an idea of what you will learn. It really is quite good. If worse comes to worse and you feel you really can't handle it, then quit. It wouldn't hurt to give it a try though.
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Thanks, Zoie.
To clarify, my concern about the 6-month commitment was if it didn't feel like the right fit. If I were financially locked in, like if I had to pay or commit up front. it was a therapist or p-doc, if I went a few times (or even just once, like I did with a p-doc who was proud that he did not use a computer--in 2017) and it didn't feel right, I could end. I could end with Dr. T at any time, for example, and it's not like I'd still owe him money for future sessions. It's not that I'm unwilling to do 6 months in general. I just don't want to be stuck paying if it wasn't working out.
I did meet (virtually) with Dr. T this morning, and he seemed pleasantly surprised that I'm willing to consider DBT groups at all (I really think I've mentioned them to him before?). I asked if he knew of any (rather than picking a random one online). He said a client has one he likes, that he could find out what group it is. (Is that an issue if it's another client? I know some T's also run DBT groups, and I assume that's fine if it's mutual clients in the groups.)
Interestingly, Dr. T said he's done the DBT workbooks a few times for himself, to better learn to cope with things. I asked if I was in a group and needed more help with the skills, could he and I discuss them some? He said yes, though he only knows them as a user, not an instructor.
I also brought up CBT (which I know is different), as I know he uses some of that in general, saying maybe he could use with me more. He said he already incorporates it, which I guess I didn't realize? I said the same for mindfulness (I don't think he incorporates that with me as much, but it's stuff he lists on his website as a methodology he uses).
So, I'm trying to use more tools. And am looking into the groups.