We talked the whole time about my alcoholic dad and the abuse that went on and neglect and just a lot of horrible abuse that went on both to me and my sister and to my dad and his siblings when they were kids. These things can shape a child’s personality and adult children of alcoholics have certain traits like not being able to share emotionally which was certainly true of me. Someone I was dating years ago broke up with me because I was too distant and wouldn’t open. Up emotionally.