Hi,

I've been seeing someone for three months, and he has some specific fetishes and sadistic behavior. He bites, pinches my breast/crushes them and smacks me hard, and recently introduced a whip without asking for my consent. I’ve tried to keep an open mind and went along with it without saying anything, but the most recent experience was traumatic for me. His aggressive behavior in these moments has been particularly distressing.

I’m not sure how to communicate that I’m not comfortable with these activities and that I’m only open to them occasionally. Any advice on how to express my feelings and set boundaries would be greatly appreciated.