Sorry I don’t know about accepting kids bodies shipped to us. That’s not something even remotely possible to accept. Separating is reasonable but most sane people never fully stop worrying.
But I think some parents never learn to keep their mouth shut with their opinions about their kids’ business. If they are the kind that have no decency to keep their opinions to themselves, it’s wise to share as little as possible. Or right before if need to or after.
I always share everything after the fact or right before. Hey I just bought a house yesterday. I just filed for divorce. I am getting married in a month, undisclosed location lol
My daughter shares with me but it’s because I keep my mouth shut when I am not too happy with her decisions. If I am not asked for advice, I don’t offer one.