I understand about measuring progress, some days for me are really dark and hard and other days. I feel so relieved and so free and I realize that the cost of freedom has the up-and-down part of healing and I don’t know if there is a timeline for that, as I think everybody is so different based on their childhood and other past traumas and losses, I think it all blends in as part of the Healing sometimes a lot of deep sorrow seems to take longer sometimes than we think. I had a therapist who told me that there’s a certain amount of tears that need to be shed and that when it’s done it’s done and you can’t always have a crystal ball to know exactly when that starts to lessen, and where the line in the sand brings you to the other side of your life , where things start to really feel like they’re moving forward. I’m in the middle of my second divorce after being married the first time for 25 years this time for 11 years and my situation was very difficult because my husband lost his wife prior to meeting me and had an adopted Child with autism very severe and it pretty much took over the whole marriage and as much as we both tried to really really make it work it just was not a sustainable design. I look forward to meeting people on this site and hearing about their stories.