@MuddyBoots, I think you should try to foster a relationship with your mother.

You might have to overlook a few things, and maybe not take on the role of devil's advocate with her. There are other ways to have a conversation and explore a topic.

You may have to work on reframing your thoughts about the noises that bother you. Think about times you heard the threatening sounds and ask whether things were alright at the time - you could be associating something from the past in the present.

Maybe start by spending a night a week at her house. That way you both can get ready mentally for it and know that it's only for the night. Then maybe spend the day with her, and enjoy each other's company. I'm sure she would appreciate that, even if you had a rocky relationship with her in the past.