Just finished lunch. If the day wasn't complete, I had to run into an abuser. It's just sad and tragic and to experience it on a personal level is unbearable. A vicious cycle where 80% of people have an insecure type of attachment which means abuse, neglect and/or abandonment is normalized. This also means a society who doesn't elect politicians that adopt a zero tolerance approach to such individuals. Instead, they elect people in power who are predatory, narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and dark triads (and if not matching any of these categories, then people who are, as I said, abusive, neglectful and/or abandoning). What would've been the opposite? Leaders who enforce policies where emotional intelligence, complex trauma combative actions and resilience is embodied. In schools, workplaces, relationships and wherever there's human interaction. Alas, just as Judith Herman pointed out, Freud knew of the prevalence of abuse since his century, though, afraid to loose his clients, he suppressed his knowledge when realized abuse is in all social strata. We're rediscovering now what he discovered with an even more whole picture of what happens to a person experiencing trauma. And, as a victim, if I had had an adult in my life to connect, nurture and protect me as a child I'd have learned how to respond to abusive people like the one I've met today.