Thanks everyone for the wonderful birthday wishes! It means a lot to me.

I found out my former father-in-law died in February. His obit did not list any kids for my ex-husband who divorced me to have kids. I suspect my ex was not able to have kids. He had a calcium deposit on his balls, so it seemed like he had three. I always wondered why i never had an accidental pregnancy, we did it so much, he was obsessed with sex. My mom was very fertile.

No matter, i am happier on my own. My father-in-law lived a good long life to 84 and died suddenly and unexpectedly at home so he didn't suffer. Donations were to The Heart and Stroke Foundation, so presumably it was a heart attack. My father-in-law was a good man! My ex and i divorced thirty years ago and have had no contact so it is not a traumatic loss for me, just sort of sad.

Anyways, hugs to all who struggle and thanks again to those who took a moment to give me birthday wishes.