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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I'm so ****ing devastated. She is now not taking anything with her from the old office to the new. She told me she'd take her chair and ottoman. We have used that ottoman every session since covid. She decided that she wants a better (same exact looking) chair and ottoman. Hers was a replica. They just bought an "original". She is of course excited and even told me her back feels better... She originally told me she'd try to take the couch, the chair, ottoman, the paint color, the rug and a picture. Now I have to deal with all these "replicas". I got nothing. She said I mattered and that I was a part of this. She lied. I was never a part of this. This is her office and I have no input. I just wish she didn't lead me on to think I might have a say.
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Ugh, I'm so sorry, Scarlet. Hugs, if wanted. She shouldn't have promised you those things if she wasn't sure. I could understand the chair if hers made her physically uncomfortable--and maybe the ottoman matched? But she could have brought the ottoman, at least at first, to help you with the transition. And certainly the picture. I'm sure her excitement is making it worse.
This makes me think of various things Dr. T was going to take or ways he was going to arrange his office (like location of loveseat in relation to window and door) that changed because he liked them better this way. Like his whole thing on how he decides how to decorate his office (regarding the fish, but everything else, too).
I hope she can do something to help you feel safe and welcome in the new space. I wish she could walk you to the back door, too (is it that it would take too much time?) In terms of feeling exposed, could you maybe wear a hat and sunglasses to walk through the space?
I understand what you mean, as I have to walk through a waiting room, then take an elevator (or stairs, then be in a lobby, then walk across the parking lot to my car (in both buildings). People will sometimes stare at me as I walk through the waiting room (I can understand looking to see if I'm their T, but then look away), which is awkward if I've been crying. With ex-MC and ex-T, it was just getting through the waiting room to the parking lot, which was right there. So easier in some ways.
Is today the last session in the old office? I hope it can still be meaningful.