SD,
Yes. You're right. And it's hard differentiating between facts and feelings and needs and wants.

Like did I technically "need" any furniture, even the ottoman. No. But does she really "need" a new chair and ottoman? Probably not imho. Both are wants, and even then she comes first.

I guess what I "need" is more stability from her. I need her to stop changing things every couple of weeks. I know I can’t control people, but she seriously is different than before her pregnancy. I know why and I wish she would fix it. But I also know why she doesn't. It's hard and complicated.

Facts versus feelings is also hard for me. I feel like she doesn't care and isn't ever considering my needs. But she is letting me keep the ottoman for now, so I guess that says something.