One of the things you are learning to do is listen to others in a new way. People actually tell you a lot about themselves if you listen and allow yourself to see them instead of seeing what you want them to be. You put your wife on a pedestal instead of seeing her for who she really is. You always gave her the power and she used it against you. She never loved you because she doesn’t love. That is hard to understand if you are honest and good hearted. And this other guy? She won’t love him either and will just look to use him too.

People like this don’t change. It never means you are not worthy, it’s just who they are as a person. Toxic people do leave others feeling inadequate and hurt and they struggle to consider a new relationship for fearing being hurt. Toxic people just go from one partner to the next and they tend to do that all their lives. They need their ego fix and feed off of drama. They never feel satisfied and get bored.