Hi all,

I've been having issues with my weight since puberty. I'm 5'7" and 20ish st. I am a happy, flambuoyant guy most of the time, but my mum consistently comments on my weight despite frequent requests from me not to. She says she "just can't see me wasting my life like this". I'm told by friends, "you're not that big", and similar comments when I ask for their honest opinion. Today I split one of my pairs of shorts, which I'd had for about 5 years and had worn pretty consistently during the warmer months. I'm autistic and struggle with regulation of my body heat so for me this tends to be from March to mid October.

Due to financial considerations, I feel like I'm still very much leashed to my mum even though I'm 27. I have autism so my mum is particularly protective of me. She doesn't feel the same about my twin brother who essentially pops over when he wants- he lives with his girlfriend about 10 miles away. Anyway, the shorts splitting made my mum fly off the handle a bit calling me all sorts of diminuitive though not sweary words. I have ascertained that I am 58.84% more likely to be overweight or obese through moderate research on recovery from a mental health crash during Coronavirus due to anxiety and game addiction issues.

I feel like due to my lack of control in some of the areas above, my mum views me as more of a child than my twin. I don't know what to do though as due to being in a relatively low paying job, I don't have the financial security that would allow me to move out. Sorry for venting, but does anyone have any answers that could alleviate or resolve even a fraction of these issues.

E x