I always had a bit of an issue with therapists creating such intense attachments in clients when they know it’s just not sustainable in a long run. And I am not sure it benefits a client. Clients end up suffering one way or the other while therapists just go about their lives. And these Ts don’t seem to work with their clients on fostering independence, but rather foster attachments. I know my opinion is unpopular.

As about kids, honestly people don’t always know if they want children or how many and when. These things change some time rapidly. Not every parent had actual hopes and dreams of being a parent. Sometimes life just happens. But it doesn’t mean it’s easy for a client

Do talk to T. And maybe just make a plan of changing therapists. Can you see T full time snd drop L