Una,
I was 7.5 years old when my sister was born. I don't think that that has anything to do with this. But maybe both my sisters' kids might. My younger sister claimed that all her children were accidents. I don't believe her. I think she knew what she was doing with the last two. And my older sister says that her second was an accident.
As far as quality therapy during my 2 hours... I guess it's quality. But it's not focused on me anymore. It's focused on her and how she affects me. We haven't done "me" work since she announced her first pregnancy. The only thing she helped me with that has nothing to do with her was the situation with my dad and sister. Everything else has been her.
She says it's good that I'm triggered. Not that she means to do it, but it gives us a chance to know this part of me and work through the trauma templates that are causing the sensitivities.