Today I told my counsellor about the blow-out that my wife and I had recently when both of our scared inner children started hurling hurt at each other badly (verbally) and we both ended up in shock and traumatised again. My counsellor helped grown-up me to take back control by helping my terrified inner child to express himself safely and in a non-judgemental way so that he felt able to hand back control to adult me. Man, my counsellor is so good at this!