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Originally Posted by jesyka
Sorry to hear about your mom. I didn’t realize that specific criteria is needed to ne officially diagnosed.
So, how did having an autistic mom affect you?
I’m definitely introverted, shy, quirky (like I dress a bit different than most people in my area) that’s not necessarily a sign of autism though. A lot of people think that I have a great sense of style.
I also have some social anxiety & I get stressed out easily. I’m a sensitive person but I don’t have any other autistic traits like sesitivity to food, noise, clothing or lighting.
Not being the most socually savvy person out thete & not outgoing & confident means that someone is autistic.
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Autistic mom meant 0 emotional support. In fact the opposite - emotional abuse, neglect and having to support her instead, walking on eggshells so she didn't have a meltdown and retaliate. Not being able to go to her for emotional regulation which as we know is crucial for kids. She would say my tears were manipulating her into feeling bad, to go away and stop crying. Because of her lack of emotional intelligence, she couldn't be there for me, got overwhelmed and hurt me instead. She cannot see out of her emotional sphere and has very little empathy for others, except in very specific contexts.
Boy, there's a lot I could go into there - I've retyped that 3 times to try and make it shorter! That's a 10,000 ft view.
Congrats on standing out with your sense of style - that's always such a nice compliment, especially when you're stepping outside of the norm!! May I ask what styles youre into? And how it differs? Im picturing like, alternative in a sea of midwestern carhartt...
From what I know, social anxiety has a lot of overlaps with autism. People now associate awkwardness = autism. Not true at all. And, youre lacking the sensory overload symptoms, which I think most if not all autistic people deal with.
Sounds like your client(?) wants someone in the same boat as her, and youre an easy target because youre quiet, anxious and quirky. My autistic friend tried to dx me with autism too when she first got diagnosed.
Sorry, Im a yapper!
