I'm so sorry you're going through this, Scarlet.
I read 'knit' as a typo for 'know', in which case you've answered TR's question.
Feeling like T doesn't understand is a really difficult place to be in.
Are you able to lean into your groups more, and talk about other things with L?
Identifying a different focus made my recent stint of virtual sessions more helpful than they would have been otherwise.
Now...I just have to deal with the fallout of having the conversations I needed to have with R with other people.
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