I get the "I love yous". It's not helping right now. There are other things greater than love and I'm learning how true that is. I see her rough edges. I have since early on because she's let me see it. It does help to not put her on a pedestal, but I always lower myself below people. Right now, I'm fighting for my own place. Sorry, a different conversation.

I still think a common language is best. Ex-T never said "love" to me. But when I described my feelings towards her, she said she felt the same. So getting clarity from both sides is the most important. Maybe you do share the same meaning of love? Just different words? Or at the very least, I'm guessing part of it is shared.

Love is such a hard topic...