@Rose76 DD went to the son & he had every right to tell her his boundaries & set them firm. That in no way is telling her what to do it is nothing more than him telling her what he needs to do for his well being & something he has every right to do. I see no intent there to make DD see mom the way he does. It is her choice all along & ALL choices have consequences & he i8s just letting her know what one of those consequences will be. She has a right to know known consequences. If she makes the choice to connect with her mom then she may learn there are more consequences than just the one with her brother. That is real life.