@unaluna She’s got a couple of women she’s comfortable turning to.

And to be honest, I’ll tackle almost anything. She’s asked me some pretty direct questions about her periods. If I can’t find an answer, she has a couple of women she turns to, but also I’ve removed any stigma of going to the sexual health nurse at her school. There’s also a teen sexual health clinic in the city near my work and I’ve taken her for women’s health support and questions probably 5 or 6 times.

@Open Eyes. I think so.

My parents are here. I’m doing well coming to terms with their positives and negatives and I’m thankful it happened while I still had them.

Dad’s a damaged person. I’ve come to realize he’s got strong traits of communal narcissism; heavily entrenched in his religion, volunteers everywhere, makes a martyr of himself, complains others don’t do as much and sometimes complains he doesn’t have enough (because he’s given so much away). But he’s not a bad person. Both my parents grew up with trauma and they carry that.

I think mom drank at times because she was emotionally lonely. Dad ADORES her, but I think she could feel something was off. Dad always provided for us and was good to us, but he was emotionally distant.

Dad shows love by doing. So…. “Come on up and show me how to measure and install my windows, and fix the frame on my couch.” So they’re here.

Mom has early dementia but she’s simply wonderful and funny and adorable. We’re watching old Hulk Hogan matches and she’s hooting and hollering with me.

After I saw my wife, I felt desperately low for four days, then a LOT better….. Like….. Really relaxed and peaceful

Since then it’s been up and down but more up than down.

Also…Back to Dad….. Communal narcissists want to feel important and often draw attention by giving. I used to stress about that because I saw Dad giving SO much away.

Now I say, “Hey Dad. I wish we could all go to Montana’s but it’s expensive.” Then he offers to buy. He always gives me his Visa to pay. I’ve resolved that 1 in every 3 times I use his card. The other times I take his card, and then I pay.

The kids are here with BFs and GFs.

Not so bad.