I hate how people can't respect whenever I finally manage to set some boundary. Friend of mine is planning a trip with 7 other people and me, to Japan, for three weeks. At some point I said I might go if I still felt like it in a few months, too much going on mentally to sign up for that at the time. Now I'm like "I really don't want to come and I'd rather work at my job that I'd have to get special absence from" and immediately it has to start with convincing strategies. I get how it feels on the other side, but come on, I rarely ever say no to something.