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Default Sep 19, 2024 at 10:36 AM
 
Do you think I'm stupid and don't know what these things are or that I didn't consider them. Just because they exist doesn't mean I can or want to do them. Comments made here like "Have you thought of adoption" are extremely insensitive and insulting. It just shows that you don't understand infertility or how it can affect a person.

Maybe you (whoever needs to) should read up on CNBC. It's actually World Childless Week this week. There are many good reads on worldchildlessweek.net.

Yes, I have thought of adoption. It's not as easy as signing up and getting a child. It is an option my H and I considered, but to pay an insane amount of money up front and then have money for the child...

I do not wish to do fostering. It's not right for me and my H right now. For many reasons, but a main one is that I don't want to get attached to a child thinking one day they might be my own, to have them taken away.

I could look into Big Brother/Big Sister. But that's not where I'm at right now.

I used to volunteer at the hospital in the maternity ward until a baby died and I heard the mother wailing. Her grief was just too much for me.

Yes, I know what IVF is. But IVF isn't simple either. It takes a lot put of you physically, mentally, financially. IVF and adoption cost about the same amount.

And while I'm confirming recent comments, yes L's body, L's rights. I think I've already said that twice here? I guess it would be good for all of you to know that I believe no child is a mistake. They are all gifts from God. And besides my other feelings and thoughts, I want L to be happy and have a fulfilling life. Just because I can't have my dreams doesn't mean I want someone, especially someone I love, to not have their dreams.

And lastly, my issue with infertility is NOT the only issue. There are SO many things that are affecting me. Let's say I could have a child of my own. This situation would still be upsetting to me.

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