Some members of my family have always disapproved of what I say, how I act, how I carry myself, etc.. Part of the reason why I left at 18. Also, part of the reason why I don't even tell them what is going on in my life. FWIW, they don't ask so I am confident they don't care. Some stopped answering the phone when I call, and will text back weeks later.

I have another sibling who gets treated the same. This sibling is the one who I can trust.

After all these years, I have concluded is just manipulation. And I don't need that in my life. When I go home, I want to be at peace. My last spouse also had issues with what I watched. I'm no longer subject to that judgment. WOOHOO!