Disordered people love vague/indirect communication. There's so much power in it. It's quite often how they get others to doubt themselves.

Even something as simple as deciding to order a pizza- you felt that they were on board, only to spend the next few days hearing about what a terrible experience it was, they didn't want it, and the ongoing misery is all your fault.

Codependency recovery focuses a lot on learning/relearning direct, polite, and tactful communication just for your own sake of sanity. It boggles the mind how often you ask a simple question and get an answer that's vague and indirect- or one that just plain runs off into the weeds. I've learned to ask very specific questions AND expect very direct answers in return. Repeat as necessary until the answer is direct. Harder than you can imagine for some disordered people.