That's the spirit!

But seriously, I'm not saying it is a bad idea, it just sounds like a bad idea given what you've told us, at least right now, without it sounding like you guys have thought about a way to go about this.

Lots of people in Tuscon, even if this particular woman isn't your wife, you're still surrounded by people. I still don't know how much her husband knows about you, your relationship with her, and your future plans. I don't know about her relationship with her husband. I don't know, things can be complex but still work if there are no secrets and everyone is okay with whatever situation.