I suppose the rebuilding has to come first before you start processing with her. Having said that, I have also known the rebuilding to take place precisely because I have stepped into the processing/deeper work so chicken and egg. It's also difficult to assess what is safe enough, what has been rebuilt enough, has enough re-establishing taken place, and so. If we had a ruler, it would be easier. A few months ago, my therapist made a horrendous mistake about an aspect of the childhood sexual abuse I experienced and it was really difficult to be steady again. It's a process. Do you sense that she is steady in the process with you?