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Old Sep 29, 2024, 08:20 PM
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel View Post
It's probably best just to ask her how she feels about offering reassurances especially between sessions. But I would ask when you're not struggling at that time. It might feel too risky to just do it when you don't know her reaction. But if she reacts positively, maybe that will give you more confidence when you do need reassurances to ask.

I agree with all this. Particularly asking at a time when you're not struggling--near the beginning of a session could be a good time. That would also give you time to talk about it. (I have a bad tendency to ask about things right at the end of session, though I've gotten better about it.)

Also, I completely understand wanting the reassurance directly from your T rather than from, say, someone on here. As that tends to be the case for me, too.
Thanks for this!
AnaWhitney, ScarletPimpernel