That is probably the reason versus my diagnosis - that his brain doesn't work.

I am glad to hear you are continuing to prepare to leave your miserable situation.

I think I just don't have his tolerance for misery. It is like several people in his life show him windows and doors and he just rejects those in favor of trying to run through a brick wall. And while I have always had at least 3-9 escape plans going at any given time - he has none.