To me the situation doesn't sound good. It seems her things and yours are getting mixed up, and that's not the point of therapy at all, it should be about you. I don't know how else to put it.
For reference with my T and his illness: he's said some people can't take it and just leave. Most others accept it and we work on it sometimes, but it's not most of our session at all. I am glad I have flipper to talk to about more regular life things. But while some things like my abandonment fears get triggered by Ts situation, it's something he takes in and gives back to me as helpful takes and lessons for me. To me it doesn't sound like that's happening with L and you. It doesn't even sound like she manages to get you regulated enough to remember the sessions, that doesn't seem to useful to me...
Thinking of you!