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Originally Posted by LadyShadow
@Rosi700 - The word VALUE means a whole lot to me too - that was the whole reason for me cutting off my best friend, I no longer felt valued in that relationship, so I had to move on. I love that MAP idea too, I think I need to draw up something like that too of what my goals are and where I want to be in life - things are good and busy, but I have no sense of direction. I have all these things I want to accomplish but absolutely no time to do it. LOVE the idea!
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As for me, my anger issues are getting the best of me - just really stressed out with bills this month and overspending. I need to watch it, and not let my manic mind let me spend my rent money, geez.
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Thanks for responding to my post.
I'm sitting here staring in the wall without no motion.
I cut out people that don't value me as well. I don't want to be the one one can call when nobody else doesn't have the time to go to the cinema, the theater or whatever. The two Christian therapists Henry Cloud and John Townsend has written
one general good book about boundaries and a few other books about boundaries in different relations. Amazon have them all. But here is the title of the general one:"Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life" (2017).
My plan is somewhere in my head. Too tired to make it now. Later I will pick a blank paper for each topic. This means I don't have to do it all at once. Then I can use the time on each paper to find out where I want to be in five years, how to get there, what is wise or not so wise to do. When I have filled all the papers with goals and positive perspectives, I will put it all together on a three with a keyword for each topic. I can hang that on one of my doors and let it motivate me. If I need more details, I can get back to the papers for one topic at the time.
Tonight, one of my grown up children will visit and we will discuss how I can become less lonely and how to arrange coming together more often than for the time being.
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LadyShadow;7446846 Please hang up reminders for your bills or make alarms for them at your phone!