Hugs, Scarlet. Is it possible that her comment about your power to destroy her career could have been part of what made you pull away? That's definitely an intense statement.

I ask because I know that with Dr. T, when he reminds me I'm part of his job and only his professional life, that can be really difficult for me.

Also, there's an implied imbalance there: that she could destroy your life, but, in what she said, you'd be destroying her career. Which is part of her life, but not all of it.

And I'd also feel like "hopelessness is a feeling, not a fact" is minimizing. Even if she didn't mean it that way.