I guess it's like people only have power over you because you give it to them?

Yes, what LT and Divine said. I don't think she feels she can ethically terminate me. But then again, according to her answer, she doesn't feel trapped. So I was wrong. Now I'm not sure how I have power over her to end her career.

And I guess the flip side is wrong, too. How does she have the power to destroy my life unless I let her? If I was to kill myself because she left me, that would be my choice, not hers.

We also have been talking a little about end of life. I know if she passed away, I would not harm myself. The opposite, really. It would be hard, but I would feel it's necessary to continue on and not waste our work together.