I've thought about the situation with ex-T over the years. How she did the termination was wrong. And I do see it as abandonment. Just throwing the first 3 dbt therapist on psychology today does not count as legitimate referrals (imo). Anyways, I've come to realize that she actually did me a favor. Whatever the reason she left me, she didn't want me. It would have been worse if she felt trapped into treating me. I wouldn't want to continue to be vulnerable with someone who didn't want me.

I think that's why I'm feeling sensitive about this "power" conversation. Because if she did feel trapped (which she says she doesn't), I wouldn't want her to stay.

I've always believed the saying that goes something like: if you love someone, set them free. They will come back to you if it's meant to be. I never want someone trapped with me or feel obligated to or responsible for me.