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Hi folks,
I'm often a little wary or concerned when asked to create this forum, because
I'm afraid that it will feed the self injury behavior rather than be a support or help to its members.
Having said that, I did create the room and hope that all of you make supportive, helpful, and as positive as possible use of it. I hope you find it helpful to talk to one another to find a way to reduce the self injury behavior, rather than just sharing it with one another.
Please take care of yourself and each other.
Best,
John
PS - Please use the trigger icon for your post if it has triggering material in it. This is new as of August, 2003. Thank you and take care.
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Emphasis mine. I can't see how a thread about your favorite tool to self harm is supportive.
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Have you read the other posts on this forum? Many of them are not started to BE supportive; rather, they are started because the member is looking to RECEIVE support.
I did not start this post in order to announce my "favorite" instrument, and suggest that everyone try it. I made this post because the purchasing of razor blades was a significant moment in my struggle with self-injury.
Like DocJohn asked, I used the trigger icon. I also trust the members to choose what they think they can handle reading. Most of us are not as fragile as we think. We can make decisions and take care of ourselves for them.
I am tired of having to tiptoe around the issue of SI-- both with individuals who engage in it, and those who do not. I will always respect boundaries and triggers, in that I will add the trigger icon, warn someone of triggering material in other forums, etc. However, SI will continue to be an extremely shameful and taboo act if we continue to be forced to censor ourselves.
I recently withdrew from a support group for women w/ BPD. I was told that talking about SI might trigger some of the other women who do not SI. I was asked to curb my talk of SI because one of the other women in the group decided to cut, and she was not previously a cutter. Everyone is responsible for their own behavior. We have to both respect people, and trust them to take care of themselves. There is no way in hell that I am going to be censored like that in a group, especially when it is a group for a disorder in which one of the main features is impulsive behaviors... such as SI.