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Tart Cherry Jam
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Default Oct 13, 2024 at 05:37 PM
 
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Originally Posted by kittlesonhr View Post


He claims that I sexually took advantage of him by lying about orgasming, and he is saying that I coerced him into bring vulnerable in sex and felt like I was using it to have power over him so he would fall more in love with me so he wouldn't leave me.

I never had that intention, but I realize it's not about my intention it's about how my partner feels.
No. Not exactly. He is entitled to feeling the way he feels but not entitled to make false accusations of you. Lying about orgasming, while not very wise, is in no way coercive. He would be well advised to look up the definition of coercion in a dictionary.

Maybe he is not the right man for you.

Why are you in DBT? It is used for far more reasons these days than treating borderline personality disorder for which it was originally designed, which is why I am asking.

I agree with CANDC about dependency on this relationship. This is probably where you would want to do some work.

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