I greatly appreciate your reply. I do realize as family dynamics go, we're certainly not the worst, but it just helps to vent sometimes, and get advice.
I'll bear in mind the advice about more frequent, shorter visits. I think going forward we'll have a sort of informal roster situation so we can spread out the visits.
He's been in the home for a little over a week. No getting around that this is a brutal transition.
However, this Thanksgiving, I spent the day with him, and then the rest of the family came and we ate in 'family dining'. That worked out very well.