I think we have to learn everything; that's kind of what "shown as a child" means? Some parents, teachers, lives teach different things at different times. Most of us just got the advanced course on hurt, pain, sadness, etc. first and get to learn all the "good" stuff later? It's a little unreasonable to hope that any one set of parents/particular public school teachers, etc. are going to be able to teach us everything we need to know; the whole thing is like the "Everything I need to know I learned in kindergarten" book and why that was so popular.

I think we are shown things but having all the conditions right so we learn what we're shown doesn't always match up. I remember how surprised I was when my T once responded that from what I was telling her my stepmother had been teaching me something "correctly". But I didn't learn "that" way for whatever reason; my attitude, background, feelings about her, etc.