He doesn’t “care” enough. You have wasted 9 years of your life here. Stop communicating, block, delete, no contact, change your number, whatever you need to do.

All these years you could have found someone whose values matched yours. You somehow need to start thinking of this person as harmful.

I used to see someone similar years ago and he said “can’t we be friends?” And my reply to him was “ how much would I have to hate myself to want a friend like you?”

Blocked. Deleted.