As you know yourself, you need to get completely free of this man. You married him before really knowing him. You're not the first person to do that. But now you know who he is. Stop thinking you need to prove how bad this marriage is. That is not how the law works. Even with a ton of proof, no one is going to step in and rescue you. You know, yourself, that you are not being over-sensitive. You don't need to prove abuse. It itself, that will change nothing. Thank goodness, you have your own place to live.

Get your citizenship. Then file for divorce. Stop visiting him on the weekends. The authorities know that foreigners will sometimes marry Americans to get a foothold in the country. They also know that immigrants often get exploited by native citizens, who marry them and treat them abusively because the immigrant spouse is insecure and vulnerable. Don't assume the authorities will judge you. You are not the first person to be abused like this. Respect yourself.

This guy is a complete jerk. He also may be unscrupulous enough to plot vengence against you and invent lies to get you in trouble. Do not be intimidated by that, but be careful. Tell him nothing about your plans to escape. Don't waste your breath asking him to change. He won't. He can't. This is who he is.

It sounds like your income would allow you to afford legal counsel. See an attorney. (Do this quietly, without telling your husband.) Once you commit to a plan, you will start to feel better because you'll be on a pathway out of this miserable existence. Continue keeping a record of how he treats you. I hope he doesn't have a key to your apartment. If he does, explain to the property owner that you need the locks changed. Call a domestic abuse hotline, and start attending a support group for abused women.

You can end this horror show of a marriage. The only person you have to convince is yourself. Meanwhile, we are here for you. We believe you.