I sort of figure that these types of responses are connected to points of arrested development. That the responses were learned when someone was a child, didn't have the maturity or tools to know how to respond appropriately- not to mention probably learned the behavior in the line of several generations who exhibited similar issues.

One of the most interesting books I've ever read is "The Angry Smile." These people did the definitive work on passive aggressive behavior and how the behaviors develop in childhood as a maladaptive coping mechanism- and then often continue unchecked throughout life. To the people who practice passive aggressive behaviors, they've learned that it works very well for them. Whyever would they change their approach to the world? Until they are held accountable by others, they probably won't change. Even if others use tough boundaries, they still may not change. It seems like other maladaptive and manipulative behaviors could have similar roots.

Ita with your observation.