I’m a caregiver & I never worked for IHSS before. I spent a lot of time completing their very tedious & annoying orientations (I had to go to 2), then I spent time & money gettIng finger printed & the background check done.
The guy who was going to be my client is mentally unstable & unmedicated. He is an alcoholic too. He also has severe agoraphobia.
He drinks all day & attends AA meetings ironically. He has no friends or family to help him put aside from his only irl friend who is my client through a company that’s not IHSS.
Anyways, I met him through my client & we hung out at his apartment numerous times.
He’d also ask me to come over to help him take out the trash or to keep him company when I was with my client. My client encouraged me to help him. They live in the same complex.
A few days ago he said that he doesn’t want me to work for him anymore as I stresseed him out to much.
I thought that we became friends, so I told him a few personal things like how my dad has cancer & about my recent doctors visits which I thought was normal conversationsl topics. He told me that he is my employer & that I’m the employee & that there should be boundaries.
He never wanted to hear me talk about myself. He expected me to only listen to him talk. He rudely told me that he’s not my therapist just for talking about my dad & my own health issues.
He then threatened to file a restraining order against me if I text him again.
Of course I didn’t text him again. I didn’t threaten him or call him names. I just said he’d probably need someone who can pay exclusive attention to him & how it was to much that he got upset with me everytime I checked my phone.
He said he’d compensate me for backpay. I don’t know if he’ll do that as I’m not officially registered with IHSS yet I found out today. I’m extremely irritated as I went there a lot of trouble already & I can’t really file a complaint as I’m not even registered in the system yet!
I felt like he used me for free labor & comoany. He is did call the cops on my client begore. She is always helping him. He claimed that she ‘attacked’ him when they were play fighting.
He is crazy! My client would never hurt anyone intentionally. She is a nice caring autistic lady. He is emotionally abusive to her but she cares about him & she feels sorry for him, so she always ends up forgiving him for being abusive eventually.
Her friend & her family hate him too. I think that he overreacted & that he is being ridiculous.
I’m mad as hell that he would do something like this. He also gossiped about me to my client & said that zi told him nasty things about her.
I didn’t. I only vented a little bit & asked him why she’d say this or that about me.
He complained about her a lot, so he’s a hypocrite.
My client told me what he told her. He fired his last caretaker as she lied about the hours she worked.
I complained about him to his vase manager & she said that she’d talk to him. She didn’t seem to care that I was abused & used though.
She didn’t say sorry or anything like that. It’s obvious that she’s taking gus side as she doesn’t know me. She told me that he’s going through a lot as if I should excuse his bad behavior because of that, ugh!
I’m sure that he lied & exaggerated about things.
He is so selfish that he asked my client to come over to do the dishes late at night the day before her birthday after we came back from an event with her & her friend.
She went & heloed him out as she’s a big people pleaser & he takes advantage of her kindness.
This is the same lady that he called the cops on once! He also accused her of trying to poison him once too when she made him a sandwich.
He asked her to buy him food when she’s living off off government assistance too. And not just any food, specific types of food.
He is almost broke but he keeps ordering stuff from Amazon & Whole Foods. Ridiculous!
I’m so glad that I dodged a bullet there! I’d be forced to listen him repeat the same boring stories & stuck listening to music I don’t really like all day if I actually did end up working for him, ugh!