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Originally Posted by Tart Cherry Jam
You do not have the power to draw boundaries. She is very clear about what she demands and you have no bargaining power to change that. Unless perhaps you are the one cooking their meals and then your labor and time expenditure gives you some bargaining power. But my understanding is that she is the one cooking and it is with their money that the food is being puchased. No?
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No, I buy my own food (contribute to grocery) and my own necessities. And she does the cooking, but I do the dishwashing daily after meals. And I also clean up around the house. I tried to cook for them, but they don’t like my cooking so I gave up. I just have to put up with them, till I save up enough to leave.
I knew I wasn’t able to leave just yet, that’s why I came here on this forum. I was looking for a way that I could ignore the my abuser. When I first got here, I just heard of the gray rock method, so I didn’t know how it would work. That’s why I asked people here if they thought it would work. I’m glad I came here for support because I was going crazy. I had no one to tell my problems to I tried reaching out to my family members, but they would tell me just to ignore him.
Im thankful everyone has helped me a lot. You’ve have taught me meditation and the flower workshop idea. Without you guys, I wouldn’t have anyone to talk to about this. I’ve been suffering alone for the last five months. The only time I can talk to anyone is when I’m talking to my therapist. I felt the weight lifted off my shoulder since I’ve been here. Because I was able to connect with people, who were able to know what I was going through. And help me find solutions.