That's more gaslighting behavior. And she cannot be trusted with your personal information. I would stop telling her things and I would start behaving like you can't trust her.

I am really curious to hear what that counselor's thoughts were on making it painful for your partner to keep doing it - that sounds like retaliation of some sort - or stooping to a level of returning the pain. Not sure if that's the best approach - with abusers, it only makes the abuse and harmful behavior worse - upon you, the victim.